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Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”.
this is an amazing quote
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Sometimes these odd rage comics do contain wisdom.
This is what a REAL rape prevention campaign looks like
All the awards.
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Yeah, so it’s time to teach men not to rape instead of teaching women not the be raped.
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I’m getting sick of the term friendzone.
Me too. And, more than that, I’m sick of the people using it.
Women are told almost constantly—by the media, the government, and the overall attitude of society—that our bodies don’t fucking belong to us. The mythical friendzone is just another way for misogynists to enforce that idea while getting to play the victim.
It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.
But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.
And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.
^Reblogging for the commentary.
Seriously guys, using the term “friend zone” as a negative is really insulting. As delacroix pointed out, it’s nearly always applied when a girl rejects a guy. It’s like saying that a woman’s friendship is worth nothing, like she is worthless because she’s not having sex with them. Stop vilifying the women who turn you down, and move on.^^^
These folks are far more eloquent than I on the subject.
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What do you mean, “it happens”? It’s not an event. The “Friend Zone” does not exist. The Friend Zone is what emerges from people thinking that their friend “did” something to them, or put them somewhere. As though it is their right to be in a relationship with that person.
Your bitterness arises from the idea that you deserve these particular peoples’ romantic interests. You don’t. There’s someone out there for you, I’m sure, but you’re not going to find her that way, sir.
There is no guideline on how to “get a girl” (that phrase indicates that a girl is something to be obtained, however, which is distasteful), you have to let life happen to you. Did I expect to meet a girl last year that would eventually end up being my girlfriend? No. If you try too hard at trying to make someone like you it’s not going to work. Just be yourself and don’t try to be aggressive about making someone like you.
Remember: the Friend Zone does not exist. Nice Guy Syndrome does. Nice Guy Syndrome arises when a “Nice Guy” thinks that he is the victim. As though someone is intentionally not liking him because they’re difficult or terrible or just don’t understand. What you have to understand is that people will be attracted to who they want. It’s not up to you to decide that they should be attracted to you.
I’m not going to get into homosexual relationships or trans-gender relationships right now because I’m not sure if this kind of “Nice Guy/Gal/non-cissexual-term” thing occurs in those.
(Adding a question mark so people can reply easily.)
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Are White People Racially Oppressed?
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Nice Guys?
Let’s create a situation. Two people meet, and they think the other person is pretty cool. They become fast friends and are such for a while. Then, after a year or more, person one tells person two that they are attracted to them. Is person two obligated to be attracted to person one? Of course not. Apply genders to these people and you’ve got the generic “nice guy” situation.
Guys, girls are in no way obligated to be attracted to you if you are attracted to them. You might be a nice person or a good person or something, but only she knows the exact type of person she’s looking for. Honestly. She might’ve made mistakes in meeting the wrong kind of person in the past, but you are not entitled to her. That’s disgusting. In that case you’re not a nice guy at all, you’re a spoiled child who wants a thing, not a person. You’re treating her like a thing. Start treating people like people and make friends with people regardless of gender (or lack thereof). Acting like you’re entitled to a person is absolutely the last thing a nice person would do. If you think you’re entitled to someone, you are not a nice guy.
Just wait to meet someone you’re attracted to and is attracted to you. It seems to happen to many people, and I guarantee that at least one person you meet will be attracted to you.
There you go. The deep dark secrets of the “Friend Zone” explained in simple terms.
Oh, and before you think this is another incomprehensible post from “just another girl” (which is disrespectful, by the way), I happen to be male. Yes, I understand human reasoning. It comes from being human.
